hahaha WOW Jabber is so bad. I spent like 45 minutes setting it up, and voice calls still don't work, the config syntax is poorly documented - the STUN/TURN tutorial I have been following linked by the docs uses outdated syntax, then after I fixed it it wouldn't bind ports, removing some entries from the default config mysteriously fixed it, I couldn't receive or send media, couldn't start video/voice calls, had no E2EE and kept getting certificate errors. STUN and TURN are soo googleable too. smelly nerds.