I didn’t have a good relationship with her either, it was, at best, ‘politely strained’. We were far too similar. Weirdly so. I find myself getting annoyed at the same things and catching myself reacting like she did.
It’s also been an education in masculinity and femininity, was she a masculine woman or am I a feminine man? Or is it bullshit to ascribe these categories to personality traits (yes, it is).