@epiceneVivant After looking up alexithymic, i experience sexual attraction as less an emotion than a physical reaction like hunger or nodding my head to a song i like
Seeing a thicc gal is like smelling a well seasoned meal.
Much like with a well cooked meal, the physical reaction (whether it be a stomach rumbling or physical arousal) is then modulated by conscious thought ("I have food at home" or "My wife is amazing and i love her") before i decide what to do with this current sensation