The important part is the mental "will write this down this evening" bucket. It means that I don't let out my anger in the moment. This allows me stay focused in the moment and react in good ways. It does NOT mean that I simply swallow everything that hurts me. I make myself aware that I DO feel hurt or negative. That's what the mental bucket is for. Over the years (yes, I had many BÆD books) it helped me a lot in staying focused in the moment, knowing that my anger has a place to land.