@dmbaturin @june @CadeTheCat This is a question I keep coming back to. I show a lot of neurodivergent traits but am definitely a borderline case and undiagnosed, and yet somehow in personal communication mix-ups with ostensibly neurotypical people close to me, it's always about how I need remedial help with my social skills and never about the things they've done chronically to lead to the problem. Sure would love that One Weird Trick that lets me have a valid perspective.