today I again had occasion to refer to @danny's 2003 piece https://www.oblomovka.com/wp/2003/10/13/the-register/ on private communications
"...we have conversations in public, in private, and in secret. All three are quite separate. The public is what we say to a crowd; the private is what we chatter amongst ourselves, when free from the demands of the crowd; and the secret is what we keep from everyone but our confidant. Secrecy implies intrigue, implies you have something to hide. Being private doesn’t." [1/2]