Sorry to hear that. I think you were exposed to Filipino tradition and ways to remember the dearly departed. If in Japan, if I'm not mistaken they visit temples, and in Korea they set up an altar once a year at home and are solemn about it, we visit the cemetery and bring lots of food, some even play games.
Another thing interesting is that, in some Asian cultures, they bring food for the dearly departed; we bring food for ourselves. 😉 I think that's how the Filipino culture meshed the pre-Colonial traditions with Christianity's "they are a spirit and don't need to eat".
In the West, this is something I have no information about (and I don't see in movies and TV) , you don't have a remembrance of the departed, right? It's more of, you visit when you want to?