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@jikodesu

I. Work/School:
* My first relationship: high school classmate, we were Grade 9, started dating Grade 10, lasted for 3 years, remain close friends to this day.
* Second: work, 3 months.
* Third: work, lasted 15 years.

II. Online dating apps
It doesn't work for me, at least the “modern” ones. I mean, there is no connection. Majority of people today, at least here in the Philippines, will not meet with you unless you “click” through the app already.

We have to meet for me to have any connection. Through online, it's only a chat for me.

Before these online dating apps came to be, here in the #Philippines we already have SMS-based chat rooms. I've been to, what was called then, “eyeballs”, basically, a meetup of two strangers or a group. I've had my share of meeting up with individuals, but we didn't establish any connection (other than the last one, she made a connection with me, but not me to her).

So, meeting physically through SMS/online app is nothing new to me. The problem is, people today just doesn't want to meet until you made them “laugh” with your text messages; or made them feel “loved” with your words. /facepalm

III. Bars and restaurants
I don't go to bars, and rarely to fine dining restaurants. Being #autistic, small talks are a challenge for me. ^_^;; I understand the logic and theory, but it will be very hard for me to start or engage in one. I'll end up either listening, or blabbering topics the other party finds boring.

Theoretically? I think I can find a partner in bars and restaurants. I understand the basics. I've read what cues and body reactions to watch out for. But I haven't tried it. And well, theoretical is different from practical. ROFL.

IV. Through friends
Nope, haven't tried asking any of them if they have a recommendation.

V. Blind dates
Not in the options. But, I definitely want to try this. I'm at that age, #Forever28, where I no longer have the desire to go through the entire process. I'll lay down my positives and negatives, my wants, my expectations, you do the same.

I've also been burned, too, and I realised and learned that what we “discover” during the entire dating process are useless. Most people “think with their hearts” instead of “feeling with their brains”. They'll tell you, “I'll accept you for who you are and whatever you will become”; but once you reach that stage, they run away. Or, they'll try to shape you to become their “dream and ideal boyfriend/girlfriend” and if they can't, goodbye!

So, lay down everything from the first or second meeting. Let's test each other's maturity. If we pass that stage or two, then that's when we should explore if we can make a connection.

I think, blind dates is a good platform(?) to accommodate “lay down everything”, without going through the entire process of dating like teenagers do. We're no longer teenagers, we're adults, so let's act as one.

^_^