This is REALLY FUCKING HARD for me to stare down, because I like and value coherence. So much so that the flaws of D&D seem painfully self evident to me.
But I’m also old and boring, and i have had the pleasure of watching people far younger than me play and love the game, and there is no value in my just deciding they’re doing it wrong.
Hell. I think a lot of the magic is that there isn’t a wrong way. Not in the bullshit way we say it while silently judging, but in a real way.