You need to understand and accept that it takes work and money to provide you a social media experience. Getting away from centralized profit-driven systems also means you probably need to think about who is paying for your experience and who is doing labor to maintain it. It might need to be you.
I pay $11/mo for my own single-person mastodon instance. It doesn't take a lot of technical know-how. But it probably still feels daunting to most people. I don't know how to help with that today.