Let me share some final thoughts and then I'm gonna move on from this topic for now.
I spend most of my time talking through these issues at a high level. Mostly to increase my own understanding. I also have a habit of being judgmental when I feel like other people have unreasonable and unrealistic expectations. I'll keep working on that.
But I often forget to make some direct statements about what I actually think people should do. So let me do that.