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Someone in my mother's family died, so my parents went to the cremation service two weeks ago. Unmasked. Then they fell ill quickly afterwards.

I only heard about it today. My mother is coughing and sounds out of breath, but she's still standing. My dad was way worse off. He has been in bed for over a week, he's had five days of 40C fever, his oxygen was below 90 and is still at only 93 right now. He can barely talk because being awake has him so out of breath. They sound so bad.

I'm so upset that they got this ill and didn't tell me until now. I'm upset that I didn't check in more often. I live several hours away and I call about once a month. I keep telling them: please mask, covid is still a thing. It's difficult that it's not easy for me to pop in help. I feel guilty for not being more involved. Two weeks ago I might've been able to push my dad to beg for paxlovid, but now he'll be too late and never get it.

I just ordered a box of supplements and had it delivered to them. I'll try to push them to take them to hopefully prevent more damage to their health, but maybe they won't. I'm also pleading for my dad to keep calling in sick to work, even though they're trying to force him to come in again. I'm trying to convince them to please not exercise for at least two months, please to try and get their ridiculously high heart rate down. It's hard to convince them that they need to seek medical care right away if my dad's oxygen gets that low again.

I have a difficult bond with my parents since covid started, but they're the only family my partner and I are in contact with. I don't want them to suffer and I'm so concerned for them. I hate always seeing them slowly decline, and now my father is so sick again. I feel like I'm always waiting for the call that one of them is in the hospital or has passed away. And what then? They're only in their 50s/60s.

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