Misanthropes need to justify their indefensible actions because it’s easier to that than it is to sit with the discomfort that they are at least a little bit like the caricature of people they hate. They have more in common with the faceless cartoon villain they talk about online and off than they are willing to admit.
And yet… they are desperate for love. This is where someone like me comes in, doing their very best to assure them they are loved only for them to emphatically reject it.