@kingbeauregard @mos_8502 One thing I can definitely say is that there are a subset of people who like to talk about their re-learning *in the context of being called out for misgendering someone* and, in that case, the problem is very much that what should be a simple apology has been derailed into talking about them. I think often they don't even know that's what it does, but it does.
Discussing it outside of that context is good. I believe it's useful to admit the work is necessary.