@kaia equally nice would be social parity where girls and boys don't feel pressured or offended if it the other likes you, or if they don't.
The hardest part for me is learning that not everyone likes coffee, so I cannot pressure them into being coffee if they're not.
Some people like tea, some people like coffee, and some will never compromise for the other if they're content in their preference.
We need to be OK with knowing that we're not everyone's cup of tea (or coffee).