@DaddyO @SeaRobb I agree, it's not the same thing. Also, it is possible to love someone yet know it's not a good idea to have anything to do with them. In their case, it's cognitive dissonance at work - both myself and my SiL have issues with the families we grew up with that have led us to cut off contact and they're fine with that, but apply the same principle on the immigration issue and let the "REEEE!!" commence.