@kkarhan @hexaheximal
Ok, the Gaslighting seems to be a issue of the federation...
On our server it looks like the order is: Posted, Edited, Answered.
But that doesnt mean that its the same Order for mstdn.social or even in both of your clients.

I know you both wont agree and you dont need to agree, thats fine. I rather suggest to both of you that you keep in mind that Federation has latency, Edits could easily missed and also certain Clients dont display Threads in a intuitive way.

And just to mention, even if it is Gaslighting, it needs more than just once in a heated discussion so that i take actions.