Unlocked an allistic response to a situation where every ounce of my autistic soul told me to be honest and turn down a gig opportunity because it didn’t pay enough to tie me to a location for a whole weekend.
Then I realised my allistic friends would take the gig, and if they got booked in for a weekend nearby then “result” and if not then they’d just pull the gig as it was no longer feasible, and there was no need to explain this in detail to the promoter.