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@thalassa Yes, I am comfortable with the idea of gender as a set of role expectations. That is a definition that makes sense to me and resonates with me.

But both trans and cis friends tell me that there is something that they feel is inherent. And that's what I don't understand at all. What is that thing? If you disconnected it from cultural expectations, what would it look like? How do people know what their gender is aside from being told by their culture?

Because trans friends are very clear that it isn't just that they connect to the set of expectations of a certain gender. They say that if there were no gendered expectations in their culture, they would still be [whatever gender they are]. And that's what I don't get at all.