@mike There's a psycho-analytical phenomenon called "the Narcissism of Small Differences" that hits on this, though without the good guy vs bad guy aspect. But it's frustrating! Good actors equivocate or stumble or fail to gain consensus over trivial matters but bad actors steam roll over everything and everyone, in concert.
If you find a solution, let me know. Let US know.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Narcissism_of_small_differences?wprov=sfla1