Don’t get me wrong: previous partners have also been supportive. Bracelet Game and Toyboy both read my blog and were super nice about it. My Big Ex literally built the website that it all sits on today. But I always viewed/treated the support they gave me as a special treat, like a magic bonus that they didn’t *need* to bestow on me. Nowadays I see it as a baseline for what I need in a partner: I need them to enjoy and care about my work the way I do with theirs.