Had friends take a look at my issues:
One took a look at Elixir for OpenBSD and concluded that it has some hacks and to make matters worse the maintainer quit giving a shit because he doesn't use Elixir anymore. He then found Friendnica and thought it was interesting but was puzzled by how nobody gave a shit but it still gets active development.Another took a look at GNU social and came to a worse conclusion; directories are jank on BSD and GNU Social has some serious unfixed issues. Also it's being maintained by some college kid who gets to it once in a while which might explain some.