@Moon The only winning move is seemingly not to play. Every woman ever in my life has more or less fallen in my lap. The kernel in this is do things, any things. Encounter women by chance, but engineer chances to occur. The paradox of desire probably also applies heavily, I think women have a heightened sensitivity for that shit.
Don't have Jerry Seinfeld syndrome where you find any reason at all not to date a completely tolerable woman. I'm a believer that largely, most people are compatible with most other people, so long as they decide they want to make things work. There are exceptional cases where this is not the case, of course.