to explain the "no unsolicited advice" thing, I see a lot of:
* I ask what people find confusing about THING
* person 1 says they're confused about X (hooray!!)
* person 2 tries to explain / offer advice to person 1 (well intentioned BUT)
* the advice/explanation is not actually useful because they didn't understand person 1's problem
I understand the urge to help but personally I try to avoid giving unsolicited advice when someone mentions a problem because it goes wrong SO often.
(2/2)