"That person may not have meant to punch you in the arm, but the issue for you is still the fact that people keep punching you in the arm.
Regardless of why that last person punched you, there’s a pattern that needs to be addressed, and your sore arm is testimony to that.
But what often happens instead is that people demand that you prove that each person who punched you in the arm in the past meant to punch you in the arm before they’ll acknowledge that too many people are punching you in the arm." [cont.]