It doesn’t help that a lot of paths to success and victory are villainized in White and American media. Not just Hitler and the Holocaust, but even things like just being powerful. Things being okay. Having control. Defeating your enemies to a man. And it’s not just an American thing either, it goes back a long time. Think about Romeo and Juliet. One of the messages of that is fundamentally anti-collectivist. Now it can be seen from an anti-brother war lense, but the takeaway is mostly, “don’t put the group before love,” certainly in modern culture.
The idea of being a conqueror is wholly villainized. The Spanish and English had to conquer America while saying they weren’t, and it was good for the natives. Think about what right wingers do when they talk about that. It’s a combination of “you genocide too” (true), and “it was actually good that X group was destroyed,” (sometimes true), but it always avoids the “White people conquered two continents and as a White person I think that’s cool and badass and good.” Maybe that argument feels weird, but it’s the only argument that puts White people at the center. It’s the only one that says “it was good because it was good for White people.” There’s so little of that.
How could justifying conquest on the basis of the benefits for the conquered ‘not’ lead to the conquered launching a counterattack and trying to kill their conquerors? How was it ever going to end in something other than “decolonization” and “right side of history” rhetoric ending in the attempted destruction of White people?