@feditips If you *are* going to push people toward smaller servers, at least acknowledge some of the problems that may arise.
The admin may get overwhelmed, depressed, or fed up — and just quit, with minimal notice. The server then ceases to exist. This happens all the time.
The admins of small servers often feud with one another, and with larger servers, which leads to impulsive defederation, which messes up the user experience. There's no easy way to foresee which servers will be affected.