@Moria that was the one that taught me that for all their “mean girls” cliquey shit, the ones paying respectability politics really have very little recourse if you just tell them, and everybody buzzing round them like flies round a turd, to go fuck themselves.
Sure, they’ll tell everyone who listens for years afterwards that you are “problematic”, but most people will either realise they’re full of shit, or just nod politely and go back to what they were previously thinking about.