really, though, I've already made my choice in this fight months ago. kolektiva federates with the "problematic" transfem instances and is blocked by the HOA ones. and I prefer it that way. if my choice has to be between a bunch of weird little communities filled with my weird little sisters and siblings, and a gaggle of joyless, scoldy cis and TME radlibs, then I'll choose the former every single time and not look back.
I just thought this place as a whole was better than that. that we were better isolated from the toxic stew of transmisogyny (and antisemitism, among other things) that eventually drove me off of twitter.
but, I guess not.
thankfully it's way easier to shield oneself from that shit when you're not being fed an algorithm designed to provoke outrage-fueled engagement, so the fediverse is, and will remain, my social media home on the internet.
but fuck if today wasn't eye-opening in a really disappointing way.