It’s been 4 months since I left #academia and my summer Rumspringa has brought down my fight-or-flight response that I didn’t even realize was so engaged for probably a decade. I’m going to put out some advice for whatever the fuck it’s worth.
If you’re killing yourself with work, “leaning in,” living that hustle life, etc. Pump the brakes. Nobody will give a shit once you burn out or age out and leave. Some will continue to try to get you to do favors because your value isn’t in you as a person but what that insane work ethic gave them and they’re going through withdrawal when you take it away. You could rise to the top of your field and I’m telling you, from my experience, it doesn’t matter. There will be immediate radio silence from the same people praising your accolades the week prior. Slow down. Say no without guilt. Go for a walk. Take work email off your phone. Channel that energy into that thing you want to learn or do that you love but don’t have the time for. Lean out.