I did however, once again, pull my admin friend, the person who had started the sever aside and say "look I can't go forward like this right? If I'm publishing stuff that might just get deleted, I should go back to my website." I was assured that nobody had it in for me (see above) and that the old admin themselves would prevent anyone from banning my account without talking to them; because again, at this point I think it's weaponized reporting from randos. I dunno that the co-admin hates me.