if you know your trauma is making you act in bigoted, eugenicist, genocidal, dehumanising ways (or if you actively shut down people trying to bring you to this knowledge), choosing not to act on that is a fascistic decision and selecting which fascists get a hug/patient talking to and which get the bat shouldn't come down to whether they're your friend/comrade, you like them, you hold the same privilege as them... It should come down to the most effective way to stop them acting like a goddamn fascist. And for fuck sake stop trying to get cripples to empathise with the people who are the reason we CANNOT EXIST IN PUBLIC OR TOUCH OUR LOVED ONES RIGHT NOW