@terraboop I think the biggest thing I was unprepared for was the amount of transmisogyny in queer/trans spaces and how few people even acknowledge that it exists. before I transitioned I was kind of naive and assumed that with a few exceptions, it'd be a big happy family in there (since that was more or less my experience presenting as a queer man). people always were saying shit like "trans women are women!" and "trans rights!" etc. etc. etc. and talking about how much they supported us, you know? but I quickly learned how much of that talk was just talk. Turns out, there are few places I've been treated worse than gay bars and trans support groups. seeing, over and over again, community-minded trans women creating spaces and groups and then being made pariahs in them and forced out absolutely broke my heart.