The two are qualitatively different. When I, as a trans woman, seek acceptance, I am not asking that anyone transition and live their life the way I do. I merely ask to be left alone to live my life.

I run a business. I am not asking to discriminate against people who don’t live the way I do when I provide my services. I am not demanding the ability to do so from the government. I don’t like transphobes, and other forms of intolerant people, but I am not demanding the right to remove them from any sphere where I might happen to encounter them.

They, on the other hand, have decided that their values require that I pretend to be just like them, or be removed from society. They demand to be able to reshape society so as to make it all but impossible for people like me to exist, and, if they were to succeed, to erase us from history and the future.

I think they’re arseholes, but I don’t seek the right to deny them the option of being arseholes.