The defense lawyer arrives hat in hand (so to speak).
These things are generally very civil because one party has all the power. (A prosecutor once told me that civil law isn't civil, but in criminal law we are all so much more civil. I was amazed that he had so little insight. Of course we were civil. He had all the power. We were exceedingly polite, so they were polite back.)
Because prosecutors and defense lawyers are in talks before indictment, the defendant knows the charges.
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