@posiris First and foremost: I really appreciate your perspective and your constructive criticism. You go WAY above and beyond, and it means a lot to me. You don't need to be a producer or sound engineer to give a musician super valuable feedback!
I'm taking some notes and making some tweaks this weekend. I definitely DO agree about the high end. I think it's the way I EQ'ed the high-hat and cymbals that's contributing to that. Just a TOUCH too shrill on certain speakers.