Understand that most victims of Asian hate crimes, are Asian women.
Understand that there are Asian women civil rights experts whose families have been living in Black and Asian communities for generations.
Some of the clearest writing I've seen on this topic is from Michelle MiJung Kim.
https://medium.com/awaken-blog/on-anti-asian-hate-crimes-who-is-our-real-enemy-207ee7354926
Read what Michelle wrote. Then bookmark it. Then go back later and read it again. Then wait a few weeks and read it again. Do this every few months until what she's saying sinks in.