Mastodon isn't anyone's house. It's an open source social media network. Anyone that contributes content shares equal ownership over this place.
Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
Don't buy the b.s. that you're supposed to give away your stake in this place to some idealized notion of norms that either a) never existed or b) only exist in the memories of others.
Don't buy the b.s. that your preferences don't matter. They absolutely do.