I can run a dozen self-hosted services without a blink. Simple shit. Install a package, start a docker container, you're good to go. Not even a sniff of real systems admin involved. Wow a port forward who cares, anyone can do that.

Dudes be like "Matrix sucks" and they're right but the clients actually work so who cares if the server is being retarded. Synapse is fine, don't listen to redditors.

DeltaChat be like "lol its just email" and you can use it with literally just email which sucks on its own but again it just actually works. I mean its email just go pay for hosting and stop fucking around.

IRC be like "uwu" and don't start shit IRC will outlive you and everyone else. IRC is the "just works, skill issue" except factually accurate.

But XMPP oh shit buddy hang on to your fucking diaper because the second your half-ass "half the specification is fash" ass client realizes you want to connect to a server you're in for a fight for your digital life against ideologues and MIT license zealots. "gajim.c.m.omemo (socially.drinkingatmy.computer) Building session failed: Invalid signature on device key!" You fucking fuck I will change my entire lifestyle and uproot my digital existence to erase you do not fuck with me holy fucking SHIT I'm heated