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Sometimes I think the conversation about loneliness is interesting because

While I personally derive a deep sense of community from these spaces and people

It’s never really that.. deep? Like I dont have the expectation I want or need to be fully understood by anyone in that situation, just showing up is enough

But then there’s also the aspect of ‘implicit acceptance due to performance of culture due to my linguistic ability’ that I think does most of the heavy lifting for me in this regard.

If I think back to other places I’ve lived, I also don’t feel like I really sought any deeper connection, but I was probably part of more in-groups anyway in the way that much more communal societies can ‘automatically’ accept people who share some traits (while also excluding others)