@bodhipaksa So I asked my brother, who often sings in the chorus of a local and quite good opera company and attends a lot of opera, for any he knew that passed. His replies:
Operas often are love focused so you often don’t even get two men singing to each other about anything but women. One that comes to mind is Saariaho’s Innocence.
We recently saw Fun Home, the musical based on Bechdel’s first graphic novel memoir. That passes!
Dialogues of the Carmelites by Poulenc passes.