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It’s hard to generalize of course, northwest and south asian cultures are very different. Even in talking to south asian friends, I think the idea of greater female independence in some East Asian cultures is fascinating. Unless you’re from a super trad family (and I would honestly be surprised to meet someone like this in Singapore / Taiwan / HK / China), I feel like gender in almost Chinese cultures is just ‘if you make your own money, go to town’. There’s still other shitty things, but less expectations around what you’re supposed to do as a woman. I think it’s different in Korea and Japan.

So I’ve personally always felt a sense of ‘I can do whatever I want as long as I’m financially independent’ but of course there’s still the other unwritten rules of ‘duty’. But it’s less gender-based, and more ‘just things you should do to exist in this community’. That said, I am very autistic, so if people are talking shit about me, I don’t know it.