@skinnylatte It's all so sad. If and only if you have good insurance, actually having a baby can be OK. Our son spent a week in the NICU, and we still only paid something like $250. But I did have to leave my state job to keep him, because state furloughs were too unpredictable and I needed every hour. If we didn't have my husband's parents to rely on in crises, though, we'd have been in trouble a few times. I know how lucky we were, but I still didn't want to try for a second child, even though I really, *really* wanted another.
Pets are sometimes even harder, because even good insurance doesn't cover everything you might need. I don't know how to make it better. I'm sorry. Everyone deserves a pet if they want one, and all pets deserve a home. 🥺