@hellomiakoda oh, you're in the USA. Right, perfectly understandable.
Aside from that, I found that the more I learned about airplanes the less scared of them I became. What really did it for me was learning that - at the worst case - if all the engines go out then you have a glider, and can still safely land. And that pilots must learn to do that as part of qualifying.
Funnily enough, I have found the opposite with helicopters: the more I learn about them the more scared of them I become!
...anyway, that's just me, phobias aren't rational things anyway, and in any case I think your fears about US ATC are well-founded :/