I was messaging a friend earlier today and talking about femininity in a sort of academic way as well as criticisms/critiques we often receive from our partners about the issue.
She mentioned how performing femininity only for its sake without a focus on the male gaze and decentering men has power.
*Wren begins snapping fingers*
Yahhhhssss!!!
Of course me, I respond with "THAT is something that gives me solace. The femininity I portray is absolutely NOT for the male gaze. It's for the female GAYS. 😜"
Sometimes it happens though and my opinion on that... It ain't my fault I have an effect on dudes sometimes.
Me and Medusa... we tight. We got that female gaze.