@Caliban64 I've been running my own instance for about a week, and I've had *four* incidents that have made me put down my phone and take a walk. Really loathesome racist, homophobic and transphobic attacks.
And I'm a cis, white, straight, affluent man. Nothing that was said to me was a credible threat to my physical safety. And it still shook me up pretty badly. I can't imagine how it must feel to someone more directly targeted.