@hellomiakoda Yeaa... At least nowadays my mom is trying to be better. Somewhat. After I guilt tripped her by explaining to her exactly how much trauma her abuse caused me + by blackmailing her by threatening her to sabotage something she wants me to do that I don't actually need to do but I agree is useful. I wish I didn't have to resort to that, but hey, I learned it from her, she is the most manipulative person I have ever met (my earliest memory of her is her lying to me when I was 5 to take me earlier from an abusive place she placed me in every day), and it's not like I actually manipulate anyone else anyway.