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I take ketamine for depression. A couple times a week, I take it 2-3 hours before bedtime in our spare bedroom. I've been doing this for a while

One side effect at my prescribed dosage is that K makes me amorous. I have no idea if this is common to other people or not, but it's a consistent side effect for me

My husband and I have been together for 30 years, We have kids. We have an active sex life. And yet...

On the nights that I take ketamine, we always always have a short discussion before hand. "Yes or no?" We have this conversation when I'm sober, and it establishes consent

If the answer is "no", it doesn't matter how many times I text him while high that I've changed my mind and want to have sex. He will tell me NO and stick to that. If he comes into the room to snuggle, and I reach for his junk, he pushes my hand away and reminds me he'll be available in the AM when I'm sober

I have no idea why it is so hard to teach this to young men