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Soatok Dreamseeker (soatok@furry.engineer)'s status on Tuesday, 16-Sep-2025 00:33:23 JST Soatok Dreamseeker

Fun observation:
If you do cool stuff, then over time you will gather a bunch of people who are interested in doing cool shit, and will quickly feel like the cool shit you're doing is inadequate because you're surrounded by people who can do cooler shit than you.
This is a desirable outcome. (It's related to the friendship paradox, too!)
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Friendship_paradox
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  Friendship paradox
  
  The friendship paradox is the phenomenon first observed by the sociologist Scott L. Feld in 1991 that on average, an individual's friends have more friends than that individual. It can be explained as a form of sampling bias in which people with more friends are more likely to be in one's own friend group. In other words, one is less likely to be friends with someone who has very few friends. In contradiction to this, most people believe that they have more friends than their friends have. The same observation can be applied more generally to social networks defined by other relations than friendship: for instance, most people's sexual partners have had (on the average) a greater number of sexual partners than they have. The friendship paradox is an example of how network structure can significantly distort an individual's local observations. Mathematical explanation In spite of its apparently paradoxical nature, the phenomenon is real, and can be explained as a consequence of the general mathematical properties of social networks. The mathematics behind this are directly related to the arithmetic-geometric...
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  lj·rk (ljrk@todon.eu)'s status on Monday, 04-May-2026 18:43:36 JST lj·rk
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  @soatok Partially explains why a lot of "us" have imposter syndrome?
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  1. The Gru 3-step plan meme with the panel texts: 1. Do cool stuff 2. Gather bunch of people who are interested in doing cool shit 3. Feel inadequate coz you're surrounded by people doing cooler shit
    https://todon.eu/system/media_attachments/files/115/209/218/510/586/829/original/89a0af007fcf5c5a.png
  Soatok Dreamseeker repeated this.
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  myrmepropagandist (futurebird@sauropods.win)'s status on Tuesday, 05-May-2026 00:07:14 JST myrmepropagandist
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  @ljrk @soatok
  nah it’s more like this
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  1. The same too cool stuffed comic, but the last two panels have been edited so that he is looking disappointed at the prospect of “gather a bunch of people”
    https://cdn.masto.host/sauropodswin/media_attachments/files/116/516/754/664/516/337/original/4de90642bc83e099.png
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  Soatok Dreamseeker (soatok@furry.engineer)'s status on Tuesday, 05-May-2026 00:07:36 JST Soatok Dreamseeker
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  @Profilbild Maybe they just like your vibe
  
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  Profilbild (profilbild@flausch.social)'s status on Tuesday, 05-May-2026 00:07:37 JST Profilbild
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  @soatok Then I don't know where all the beings doing insanely cool shit who are in my life came from xD.
  
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