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   Miakoda (hellomiakoda@pdx.social)'s status on Monday, 14-Apr-2025 07:49:59 JST Miakoda

   Still on that journey to not suppress stimming. It's such a burned in habbit to suppress it. Knowing how helpful it is doesn't really undo that drive to "be normal" that was engrained in to me.

   Thing is, I AM normal. I'm a normal autistic Koda.

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     Miakoda (hellomiakoda@pdx.social)'s status on Monday, 14-Apr-2025 08:39:54 JST Miakoda

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     • austin heisley-cook

     @Austinheisley
     Likewise.

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     austin heisley-cook (austinheisley@autistics.life)'s status on Monday, 14-Apr-2025 08:39:55 JST austin heisley-cook

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     @hellomiakoda I am glad to have met you

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     thejikz (thejikz@infosec.exchange)'s status on Monday, 14-Apr-2025 09:50:48 JST thejikz

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     @hellomiakoda I decided the same, and the weird looks and questions are pallettable now that I have some resolve in giving a close to zero amount of fucks about them. lol
     cheers in your stimming adventures!

     ps, one of my recent auditory stims DID get me into trouble. I am pretty sure it was not noise ordinance time, but at 0723, I hit a large pipe with a hammer. 3 days later I cot a word wrapping from my neighbor, not quite mad, but also like..."bruh...wtf". So I am working on stim magnitude still.

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     Miakoda (hellomiakoda@pdx.social)'s status on Monday, 14-Apr-2025 09:51:21 JST Miakoda

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     • thejikz

     @thejikz
     Yeah, stims annoying people when it's something ACTUALLY an irritant (not that BS where they find silent hand fksps annoying somehow) is a valid complaint. I had to find a different stim for focusing at my computer, and keep my feet off the floor when gaming, cause the noise was keeping up one of my roommies.

     I just wish she'd understand how much effort that was. Being accused of not caring about the noise I make kinda hurt.

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     Miakoda (hellomiakoda@pdx.social)'s status on Monday, 14-Apr-2025 09:52:00 JST Miakoda

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     • thejikz

     @thejikz
     Also, banging on something for a particular sound is relatable! For me, empty soda bottle on my head when I finish it is one... and is one I kinda have to not do. lol

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     Miakoda (hellomiakoda@pdx.social)'s status on Monday, 14-Apr-2025 09:55:38 JST Miakoda

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     • thejikz

     @thejikz
     Yes! And I'd mindlessly do it for HOURS!

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     thejikz (thejikz@infosec.exchange)'s status on Monday, 14-Apr-2025 09:55:39 JST thejikz

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     @hellomiakoda I used to do empty soda bottles!! that snappy bounce!!!!

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     Miakoda (hellomiakoda@pdx.social)'s status on Monday, 14-Apr-2025 10:03:09 JST Miakoda

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     • thejikz

     @thejikz
     This was validating to hear. I appreciate you said it. ❤️

     I'm still trying to fully accept another stim, my most helpful stimmy thing.... Not sure why I'm as self conscious about it as I am

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     Miakoda (hellomiakoda@pdx.social)'s status on Monday, 14-Apr-2025 10:29:52 JST Miakoda

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     • thejikz

     @thejikz
     For me... I never grew out of thumbsucking. I simply switched to a pacifier in my teens cause I need my hands free, and I didn't want to essentially lick everything I've touched.
     My mother did a lot of shaming over it, which still affects me, still trying to shake it. It just keeps me calm.

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     thejikz (thejikz@infosec.exchange)'s status on Monday, 14-Apr-2025 10:29:53 JST thejikz

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     @hellomiakoda I have quite a few and am VERY visible in my job. I turned most of the distracting (auditory usually) stims into quirks that are acceptable, but certainly not without the bumps along the way!
     I still get told occasionally to straighten up...but at least now they understand I am not trying to be a bung hole. Support really does make a big difference.
     The neighbors are remarkably chill about the chop saw and table saw at 3am still.